So, you guys remember I told you that
I went to the Slumber Party? Hopefully! If not, read below! Well, I did and
during the Slumber Party we discussed ways for people in long term
relationships to keep the spice in the bedroom (or kitchen, bathroom, roof of
the car, wherever you choose). Let’s face it…if you are with someone for a
longtime, 6 years in my case, and you aren’t creative things can get boring
sexually. Things can become very predictable.
All the moves can feel rehearsed. You’ll know what position is coming, what
he/she will say, when and what to do to make him explode to get it over with (sad
but true). To avoid this, I have come up with a few ways to keep him/her
guessing. Here are a few in no particular order.
1. Role Play: Everyone has fantasies. Turn your fantasies
into reality… not only yours but your partner’s as well. My man never knows who
is going to come into the room. LOL! If
he/she doesn’t know what to expect, how can it be boring or predictable? The important part is to feel comfortable;
however if you don’t feel comfortable you probably shouldn’t be with that
person in the first place (IJS). I must admit that I crack myself up and break character
all the time. That just adds to the fun.
2. Dress Up: This goes along with Role Play. To help get
into character sometimes costumes may be involved. Kind of hard to fantasize
about a Pirate if there isn’t a hook and a parrot somewhere in the room…LMAO! I’m
a nurse and a former teacher. Needless to say, I’ve had to play both the Sexy Nurse
and the Inappropriate Teacher (I prefer College Professor…18+). YES…costumes
were involved. If you are to the point of being intimate with your partner,
hopefully you are comfortable with your partner seeing your body. For those who
aren’t comfortable dressing as a Sexy Nurse with a short skirt and crotchless
panties and a stethoscope connected to nipple pinchers there are more
conservative costumes. (Side Note: Nurse Kea has yet to wear a skirt of any
kind nor a nurse’s cap. Kind of hard to perform medical procedures and keep a
butt cheek in at the time. Scrubs aren’t very sexy I suppose. I guess that’s
why they aren’t included in the costume.)
3. Foreplay: Foreplay does not begin 20 minutes before penetration.
Foreplay is a constant act. Anything from the extra sway in your hips to the
sexy grin he/she gives you on the way out the door is foreplay. Keep the other
person interested, aroused, and wanting you. Plus, this is the age of technology…send a
sexy text or a photo (Advice and Disclaimer: Make sure you check the recipient
before you press SEND…Sorry Mommy).
4. Toys and Videos: Self-explanatory people! Depending on
your comfort level, there are toys ranging from vibrators, dildos, massagers,
handcuffs, dice, anal plugs (scared of that), etc. Whatever your pleasure may
be. If you like it, don’t be ashamed…you are NEVER the only one. As far as videos are concerned, there is a video
for ANYTHING. DO YOU! Most importantly: Keep Calm…Know Your Limits…Carry On.
5. Fun: If you aren’t having fun and enjoying sex there is
no point in having it. Make sure you are comfortable with yourself, your partner,
and the act. Don’t let anyone talk you into something that you do not feel
comfortable with. Safe word… PINEAPPLES!!!!
There
are many more ways to keep it on and poppin’ sexually. The above are just a few. As you can probably tell, I am not shy and
have no problem discussing this topic. Any questions, concerns, comments hit me
up. keakurviekulture@gmail.com No question too strange!
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