LA's TIPS & TRICKS to KEEP YOUR FLAME LIT!

HEY KURVIES AND KURVIE ADMIRERS! THIS POST IS SOLEY FOR THE 18+ CROWD!


Have you ever intentionally made love with your clothing on? Does the idea of the lights being on horrify you? With this 2 part ENTRY hopefully I can assist you in changing that!
Some of us love it, some of us want it but are scared to say so, and some of hate the idea of taking our clothes off PERIOD! Sex is one of the most intimate experiences in the world. It’s a beautiful sharing of energy and passionate expressions. YET it can be a total nightmare for some of us.

Before you can truly express yourself with a partner you have to first love your nakedness. I suggest standing in front of the mirror, starting with your face and tell yourself something you love about your face. Next remove your clothing piece by piece and find something beautiful about every part of your body. Then stand there in the mirror, do a few spins and really admire yourself. Dont be quick to throw on your clothing, admire yourself until you a truly able to love everything you see. If your not proud of what you see, your partner will feel the same way, thus ruining the sexual experience. Once you are comfortable with yourself the possibilities are endless!!

Sex and positions: The first tip I can give is that you must feel comfortable with your partner. When you’re comfortable your partner is comfortable and the sex becomes incredible.

The basic and easiest position is missionary. If you do not know here's the explanation: The woman lies on her back and the male does the work. From this angle you look smaller and your tummy looks flat due to you lying on your back. To the ladies that are willing to go a little further lift your pelvis off the bed and you slide up and down. It’ll mix up the usual missionary position, it also give you control of the speed and depth!

Second position is doggy style: with your back arched the male enters you from behind. Your stomach is not visible and you may feel more comfortable with out your stomach being seen. If you are a little more experienced have your partner stop "pumping" and you move your back and backside. DO some work he will appreciate and you'll enjoy controlling the speed and depth of the entrance. If your not sweating your not doing your job ladies!

Reverse cowgirl: Similar to the doggy style in the sense that you are not facing your partner. You a riding him with your back turned to his face. With this position you can also control the speed of the "ride" . Another tip is to tighten you vaginal walls as you  control your speed. This will provide a pulsating sensation for him. If you are willing to go a little further tie up your partner using something as simple as a tie or belt.

Im sure there is a special name for this last position but Im not sure of it. You lie flat on your stomach and the male enters from behind! He can get some stability by placing his hands on the small of your back OR pinning down the back of your neck to the bed. I suggest purchasing a restraining kit for your local sex shop. Have your partner tie your arms and feet to the bed. This makes this position extremely exciting. You can turn it to a game by trying to escape.

Last and certainly not least of the simple positions is Side ways. You lay on one of your hips and he enters from the side. You can make this one exciting by taking a neck tie and placing it around his neck and when you want him to go deeper pull on the tie. Remember ladies it’s the little things J.

One thing you must remember is sex is more than just insertion. If you stimulate all five senses the orgasms will be intense.  Remember taste, smell, sight, touch, and sound.. Email me and ill teach you how to stimulate all of them in one act!

Ladies grab a bag and fill it up with goodies. Keep it close to the bed or in the closet. A sex toy of your choice, tongue vibrators, BJ rocks, lubricants (flavored and not flavored), ben wa balls, restrainers, blindfolds, paddle, whip, handcuffs, nipple stimulants, condoms..etc those are just a few things!

I also suggest taking your pleasure time out of the bedroom. Try the car, movies, park, beach, etc.  Another important suggestion is to discuss with your partner about your likes and dislikes. Teach him how to please you and you do the same for him. Sex should always be fun and exciting, and never a jaunting task..


LADIES AND GENTS THESE ARE REALLY BASIC TIPS, IF YOUD LIKE OTHER SUGGESTIONS OR IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS I AM READY TO ASSIST YOU EMAIL ME!  lalakurviekulture@gmail.com

Doing things different...

Your in a different kind of mood, and you want to do something different, but  he/she is ready to just get to it, NOOOOO slow things down, start with some foreplay…

A little foreplay can make for a long wonderful night. Talk about what your planning to do.  Light kissing and nibbling in the right spot can get you hot and ready….. For me  I  enjoy a massage. Theres nothing like a soft sensual caress all over to start things off.  Lets me know their just as comfortable with me as I Am… (this is FULL package hunnii, yu gtta b able to indulge).

And don’t be shy, you don’t always have to keep it sweet. Their urs right?!?  Get into it, change things around. Show a different side of you. This too will bring plenty of excitement. {Gtta keep things fun, always}.  The little things go so far, it lets them know their thought of.  

Now I wouldn’t be a woman if I didn’t tell you, don’t waste all this goodness on just an ordinary lover. This has to be one that has earned it, This causes for extra attention so they must work for it and prove themselves.  Y buy tha cow if you alreadii have the milk right?!? Respect  your selves ladies, know your worth and never sell yourself short.  

BE SAFE!!!!!!

I wanna Hear From You!

Email me at Danikurviekulture@gmail.com with your questions, comments, topics, or just to talk. Until next time…

Getting to know you FIRST...

…then I woke up {I realized it was my own hands between my thighs}

But no one was here {I know its weird}

Guess I don’t need no help…

I JUST MADE THE SWEETEST LOVE TO MYSELF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

-K. Michelle

K. Michelle  couldn’t have sung it better. Whos gonna make love to you better than yourself??????

Get to know your body so that you can get to know whats most fulfilling to you and to ensure your sexual satisfaction. Take your hands and explore, let loose, no one is around but you! At the end of your endeavor, you should feel amazing! You will know your likes and dislikes, which will allow for you to always know what your body wants. As long as you communicate this to your partner you should be nothing less than satisfied.

 Don’t b ashamed, go to your room, relax, get out your toys and enjoy YOU!!!

Feel free to email me with ANY questions, comments, topics you may want to hear about, advice, or hell just to say Hi, Danikurviekulture@gmail.com

Keep It On & Poppin

So, you guys remember I told you that I went to the Slumber Party? Hopefully! If not, read below! Well, I did and during the Slumber Party we discussed ways for people in long term relationships to keep the spice in the bedroom (or kitchen, bathroom, roof of the car, wherever you choose). Let’s face it…if you are with someone for a longtime, 6 years in my case, and you aren’t creative things can get boring sexually.  Things can become very predictable. All the moves can feel rehearsed. You’ll know what position is coming, what he/she will say, when and what to do to make him explode to get it over with (sad but true). To avoid this, I have come up with a few ways to keep him/her guessing. Here are a few in no particular order.

1. Role Play: Everyone has fantasies. Turn your fantasies into reality… not only yours but your partner’s as well. My man never knows who is going to come into the room. LOL!  If he/she doesn’t know what to expect, how can it be boring or predictable?  The important part is to feel comfortable; however if you don’t feel comfortable you probably shouldn’t be with that person in the first place (IJS). I must admit that I crack myself up and break character all the time. That just adds to the fun. 

2. Dress Up: This goes along with Role Play. To help get into character sometimes costumes may be involved. Kind of hard to fantasize about a Pirate if there isn’t a hook and a parrot somewhere in the room…LMAO! I’m a nurse and a former teacher. Needless to say, I’ve had to play both the Sexy Nurse and the Inappropriate Teacher (I prefer College Professor…18+). YES…costumes were involved. If you are to the point of being intimate with your partner, hopefully you are comfortable with your partner seeing your body. For those who aren’t comfortable dressing as a Sexy Nurse with a short skirt and crotchless panties and a stethoscope connected to nipple pinchers there are more conservative costumes. (Side Note: Nurse Kea has yet to wear a skirt of any kind nor a nurse’s cap. Kind of hard to perform medical procedures and keep a butt cheek in at the time. Scrubs aren’t very sexy I suppose. I guess that’s why they aren’t included in the costume.)

3. Foreplay: Foreplay does not begin 20 minutes before penetration. Foreplay is a constant act. Anything from the extra sway in your hips to the sexy grin he/she gives you on the way out the door is foreplay. Keep the other person interested, aroused, and wanting you.  Plus, this is the age of technology…send a sexy text or a photo (Advice and Disclaimer: Make sure you check the recipient before you press SEND…Sorry Mommy).

4. Toys and Videos: Self-explanatory people! Depending on your comfort level, there are toys ranging from vibrators, dildos, massagers, handcuffs, dice, anal plugs (scared of that), etc. Whatever your pleasure may be. If you like it, don’t be ashamed…you are NEVER the only one.  As far as videos are concerned, there is a video for ANYTHING. DO YOU! Most importantly:  Keep Calm…Know Your Limits…Carry On.

5. Fun: If you aren’t having fun and enjoying sex there is no point in having it. Make sure you are comfortable with yourself, your partner, and the act. Don’t let anyone talk you into something that you do not feel comfortable with. Safe word… PINEAPPLES!!!!

                There are many more ways to keep it on and poppin’ sexually.  The above are just a few.  As you can probably tell, I am not shy and have no problem discussing this topic. Any questions, concerns, comments hit me up. keakurviekulture@gmail.com  No question too strange!

SEX SEX & MORE SEX!!!!

Everyone has it, fantasizes about it, or will eventually do it. SEX!!!!!! Gone are the days of “sex” being a “4 letter word”, even though it has 3. In today’s society sex is a topic that is commonly talked about. Whether you talk about how you do it, how you want it, or how you don’t want it, sex is a popular topic for everyone…YES even grandma…EEEK!

Coincidentally, just last night I attended a “Slumber Party”, a party hosted by a representative of a sex toy distributor came to a location with a variety of toys, vibrators, massage oils, and games and presented them to us for the purpose of persuading us to purchase as many products as possible. The theme was lingerie for the attendees so we were all dressed in lingerie for the party…OF COURSE y’all know I had to represent for the full figure ladies in a sexy yet classy 1950s pin-up corset, fishnets, and sexy heels(sorry but no cameras were permitted at the party). We played a sex themed game of “I Never”, had an interesting demonstration on how to use several different toys (not literally…NOT that kinky), and had interesting conversation.  It was fun. We laughed, we ate, we found out some interesting things about the sex lives and fantasies of the friends that we see daily and NEVER would’ve thought they would be into (blushing). The party led me to thinking about the topic of the blog for this month…what could I say about the incredible act of SEX? So for my control week of the blog I will address several topics that I found to be interesting at the Slumber Party and just general conversations that my friends and I have on a regular basis (Seriously! All the time).

So for the first topic I think I will take the responsible route and agree with Sami…Make him/her work for it. I don’t know about anyone else but one of the first things that I think about when I first meet someone that I am interested in is what sex would be like with them. This is normal, or I am just a freak, because we are all human and sexual beings. As women, we often associate sex with emotions so it is very important to not go there immediately, unless you have the ability to separate sex from feelings and just REALLY want it.  If a guy, or girl, if feeling you he, or she, can and will wait. I have a lot of male friends as well as brothers and I have definitely seen a difference in the level of respect that they give to the girls that immediately let them smash and the girls that don’t who they actually have feelings for. One of my friends told me that he appreciates a woman that values her “goodies” and doesn’t dish it out to just anyone that wants it. In his eyes, that is the woman to take to meet his mom, spend time and money with, and possibly make Wifey. Men like to know, or at least think, they are the either the only one or one of few. Don’t get me wrong, DO YOU! Sleep with whomever you want. I’m just saying that if you meet that one person who you really like and you think really likes you, make them put in work. If you give into what he/she wants immediately there is nothing to build up to. No anticipation.

Feel free at any time to contact me at keakurviekulture@gmail.com with any questions, comments, or concerns. I am very open, not much surprises me or makes me uncomfortable.

                                                                                                -Kea

Lets talk about SEX baby!

Let’s talk about SEX baby!

Hey Y’all! I’m here to give you a different perspective on sexual relationships. I’m taking over the blog for the week and am going to give you three topics to read about!

How soon is too soon?

Men vs. Women….what we ALL want!

Advice Column

You are more than welcome to reach out to me with any comments or concerns. I’m going to save the third blog for any questions I get or any topics you all would like me to speak on! So if you have something you want me to cover shoot me an email! 

SamiRose.KurvieKulture@gmail.com

How soon in too soon?

So we’ve all been in the situation. You’re on a first date or at a party and meet an awesome guy. You both hit it off right away, hang out all night, and then the question comes up “What are you doing after this?” For some this is a purely innocent question but for others its “HEY what else would I be looking for at 2am?”  More times than not a man is looking to have sex with you. So the question every woman should ask herself is how soon is too soon?

In a perfect world, having sex with a guy when you’ve just hung out for the first time would end being an awesome time and you’d hit it off right away. However, we all know that is not always the case.  Sometimes you may never hear from them again and other times you may hear from them only at 2am. You’ve turned into his booty call.

So here is my answer, MAKE HIM WORK FOR IT! We all have urges, but the best foreplay is time. Make him anxious, make him want it more, DON’T JUST GIVE IT AWAY! Have sex with him when you know if you wake up in the morning you’re not going to regret it! If a man is interested in you for more than sex he will call you again after the first date. If he doesn’t than that’s all he wanted to begin with.

If you are the type of girl who can have a one nighter and not regret it in the morning than more power to you! However you are in the minority. Most women attach after sex because of the intimacy of it. Regardless of the length of time you have to wait you should not regret your decision whatsoever. Stay true to yourself and do not just jump into the sack with someone because you are lonely. Get to know the person first, form bonds and trust, the sex will be THAT much better and super sexy.  

Have anything you'd like to comment on? Leave some love below or email me anytime SamiRose.KurvieKulture@gmail.com! Don't forget to write me with questions for the advice column!

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Car's Red Light Tips

Sex! What can I say about sex that hasn’t already been said or written? Probably nothing, however I’m going to share with you my views about sex anyway!

First things first, there’s no such thing as bad sex just bad communication between you and your partner. That’s right you heard me, ladies if the sex is bad it’s because your partner is not aware that you are not getting everything you need to take you to that happy place where all you can do is smile and babble! But you can’t simply blame your partner for being selfish and not thinking of you and your needs, especially if you don’t vocalize them.

Which leads me to my second point, knowing what your needs are! It is extremely important that you get to know your body inside and out. first Literally! Now some of you may not know your G-Spot from that smooth spot on the rough of your mouth. No seriously, if you run your tongue over the roof of your mouth towards the back is a smooth spot. Now take two fingers and insert them into your vagina and motion come here you should feel a soft smooth spot on the inside of your vagina, that is your G-Spot! Congratulations you've found it! Now keep saying come here until you literally come. Also, did you know that your Clitoris is the only organ whose purpose is solely for pleasure? That's right! It's only job in life is to bring you pleasure, so ladies if you're not utilizing this organ then you're keeping it from doing it's job. Hehe...

 But back to what I was saying, it is extremely important for you to know what you like don’t like, and what spot if hit perfectly right makes your eyes roll back in your head and lose ability to speak coherently. That is why self-love (masturbation) is important. First you must explore the homeland before you let someone else roam all over it. When you first buy a home or a car you thoroughly inspect it before you go showing it off to other people right? Well you’ve got to do the same with your body. Then, once you know what makes you say; “oh shit”, “damn”, or “aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh…..yesssssssssssssssssssssss” then introduce your man to those wonderful moves and encourage him to explore them before, during, and after sex!

Like all things in life sex is all about communication; bad communication equals bad sex. Ladies you’ve got to open your mouth and speak up about what you want. You want to use toys or props tell your man, you like a certain position or him in a certain spot say so, even if it is during sex just open your mouth and say what you want because the squeaky wheel always gets the oil.

Ladies, I love sex and I love to talk about sex. I’m very open, honest, and I’m so not afraid to share. Ask me questions either here or via email carkurviekulture@gmail.com and I will tell you whatever you want to know.